We’re trying something here — maybe it’s useful?
We recently received some unsolicited perspective from a dude. I don’t know anything more about said dude other than he wanted to share some observations he had about models — specifically regarding new model “mistakes.”
Honestly, I almost deleted his message, but then I paused. Dudes — members, users, fans, clients and more — see and experience a side of webcam that those in the industry do not. There are many “grains of salt” one must use to contextualize such feedback, things like How experienced of a consumer is the person? and Are they legitimately trying to be helpful, or are they just a troll? So, while keeping context in the forefront of one’s mind, considering well meant feedback and sincere observations might be… interesting?
Give all that, I present to you the first installment in our “Thoughts from a Dude” experiment.
Here’s one dude’s thoughts on new model “mistakes.” He wrote:
I know what it’s like to be nervous at a new job, but I don’t understand when cam girls who are new don’t just embrace the cycle of being new and let themselves learn, rather than trying to force it. Rather than being interested in a new model learning on the job (which I would be), I feel like I’m seeing something fake. [Text copyedited slightly for clarity.]
Here were some of his “do not do” ideas.
1. Charging through a tease and show too quickly in private — don’t.
This rushes the entire interaction, making it feel impersonal and less satisfying. At least, it does according to this person’s tastes.
“When you’re one-on-one with a client who is paying to get entertained, you should interact. To just expose everything in the first five minutes without first asking if that’s what the man wants is a sign of inexperience,” this dude wrote.
2. Overdoing your sexy – don’t.
This is odd, I thought — Isn’t the point to be sexy? But according to this dude, an over-the-top version of in-your-face sexy is too much. To this person, it indicates nervousness and inexperience, especially in open chat.
3. Copy others, and also comparing yourself to others – don’t do this either.
When people start out at anything, they often look to their more experienced peers for guidance, inspiration and mentorship. This is fine because this is not copying. But when your adulation of another model starts to override your own personality and unique flair, this is a bad thing — and it paints a bad picture.
According to this dude, this type of mistake (both copying and fronting) paints a model as 100 percent inexperienced. Even a decently experienced model who seems to be paying tribute a bit too much to another model starts to look like an amateur, and probably nervous too.
So there you have it — thoughts from a dude. Obviously these observations are based on the tastes of one person only, so they need to be considered nothing more than that.
At the same time, one person’s observations may reflect insights from many others — because though we are all unique and special, we also see a lot of similar things as humans. Take a moment and consider: What do viewers see that maybe you are not aware of? What are the disconnects you can help remedy with some members?
Thoughts from a dude might help you figure these out!
Are you a dude? Do you have feedback for models — like, thoughts and useful observations regarding what you see from your side of the cam? Email them to me, and we will share them out!
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Erika is a sex positive people watcher (and writer). Email her at erika@ynotcam.com.
Image via diego medrano.
