Advice is a funny thing, mostly because it’s all relative. When you ask your BFF how she’d handle a problem, it’s likely good advice because she’s coming from a similar place, or because she “gets” you (you’re BFFs after all). When you ask your tax accountant how to brush up your finances, her advice only works if you tell her the nitty-gritty details of your income — because her “good advice” would vary depending on your personal fiscal state.
The same goes for work advice, suggestions and ideas. If you’re a new model, the best tips might have to do with establishing your presence online and getting your branding ducks in a row. If you’re more experienced on cam, advice might have more to do with avoiding burnout, diversifying income streams and controlling your content (this is actually good advice at any stage, though). The point is, depending on where you are in your career and life, “good advice” can vary … which brings us to Megan Kroft.
Megan is a self-described “Intermediate Cam Girl” — definitely not a newbie, but also not a veteran. She shared some of her thoughts regarding her own growing pains on cam, figuring out her motivations and what it’s like to be a year and a half in the biz.
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Hey! Hello people from the industry — cam girls and cam boys, hello! I’m Megan Kroft. Megan, not Meg. (“Meg” makes me think of Family Guy.)
I’ve been a cam girl for about a year and some months, so I’m not a newbie, nor do I have so much experience. I’ll tell you how an intermediate cam girl sees this industry.
The early days
I started camming from home, and it was the worst thing ever for me. I wasn’t such a good English speaker, and that meant I had to use Google Translate. Being on your own is pretty tough in this industry. I didn’t quite “get” a lot of things, and by the time I understood I had to smile more and be more interesting, my room was empty.
So, I decided to work with a cam studio — sooo much better. They helped me get the business, and they are really there when I need them (and even when I don’t). They’re like my family.
Motivation
I’m not a poor Romanian girl with no school or future. I finished high school, and I’m a student at a business college. My parents taught me right, but they also taught me to follow my dreams and what makes me happy.
My dream one year ago was to make money, and I wanted boobs. I swear, this was the reason I became a cam girl: I wanted boobs, and I wanted them fast. I didn’t want to get credit for them, nor ask a man to “buy” them for me, nor my family. I wanted to do this on my own.
After literally everyone in the studio asked me not to do it because they said I looked perfect, I went ahead and did it anyway. They scolded me. Then they took me home from the hospital and took care of me. Then they scolded me more, and held my head while I was sick. If that doesn’t count as a family, I don’t know what does.
So I got boobs. Things were starting to look up for me, I got a lot of members in my room, and I was more confident. I started smiling more. Next step: a car. I have my dream car in my head, and someone once told me to describe it so that I know exactly how it should look. All I can tell you is that it’s beautiful.
So, back to camming.
Ask for help, learn from others, set #SquadGoals
When I started camming, I thought all I had to do was dance and be cute. Then I thought I had to play a role. That didn’t work either. I tried to “fool” members to stay with me in private or to take me to a private show. I looked desperate, and that doesn’t suit a girl.
What nobody tells you is this: Ask for help. I learned that the hard way after months of trying everything I ever thought could work, but didn’t.
I’m lucky I have some of the biggest names in the industry as my colleagues, the girls who made #girlsfromstudio20 a “tribe” of which everyone wants to be a part. So I asked them. I was so afraid at the beginning because I though big cam model stars had a sort of beautiful but cold, never-to-be-touched statue at a museum quality. I was star struck. Little did I know that they felt lonely, too. They wanted us, the newbies, to ask them questions and to learn. They wanted to help, and so I became their protégé.
Day by day, I learned and evolved. I found out about new tricks and tips on how to get a great relationship with my members — and mostly with myself.
Self care and best practices
Being a cam girl is no easy job. You have to put on a smile every day, and you have to entertain. There are members who understand you and are your friends — you talk and laugh together — and there are also members who just want a quick release. I get them both.
I’ve learned from this by now that you have to love yourself so much as to take it slow. (Yes, I get the pun: “Love yourself, cam girl!”) You don’t have to put so much pressure on yourself from the start. Things have a way of working out if you put in the time and effort and you’re responsible.
Don’t think that if you earn enough money, you get to spend it all like crazy. Open a bank account, put it there, spend only what you need.
We’re all young and tempted, but never go after a member. Never meet with him, don’t give him any of your info and don’t let him so close. He, as well as you, is a person behind a screen. You never know what’s real.
Oh, and sleep! I have to learn this lesson better. You need to rest, you need to eat, you need to take care of your body and your mind. This job is exhausting, so you need to be on your game every day.
Also, don’t be like the rest of them. Don’t copycat. I never understood this until now. You’re unique, and so am I. I’ve tried to be like Devious Angel, like Sasha Red, Lexie Ford, Rebecca000. Nothing worked. I had to be Megan Kroft for people to really like me and want to spend time with me.
This industry has changed me a lot, but for the better. I learned to be more open and patient. I learned to smile more and give positive vibes back to people. I learned to listen and to make myself heard. I know it sounds weird, but I think every 20-something-year-old woman should have this experience. You don’t even realize how much you learn about yourself — and you keep on learning too!
So I’ll see you guys in a year with some new info and intel — driving a new car and signing the papers for a house of my own.
XOXO, Megan Kroft
Proud member of #girlsfromstudio20
Find Megan on Twitter at @MeganKrofft and at MeganKroft.com. Check out #girlsfromstudio20 on Twitter for cam community with other models
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Life is a series of transitions. Just like Megan is not a newbie, yet not a veteran, Britney Spears was once not a girl, yet not a woman.
