With all the holidays out there that require emptying your bank account or visiting friends and family you could do without, isn’t it great that there’s one that is all about YOU, your hand, and feeling good?
This month we celebrate Masturbation May thanks to surgeon general Dr. Jocelyn Elders and sex toy retailer Good Vibrations.
The company started the holiday back in 1995, in honor of Elders who lost her job after daring to state that she approved of teaching children about masturbation – “I think that is something that is a part of human sexuality, and it’s a part of something that perhaps should be taught. But we’ve not even taught our children the very basics.”
A woman ahead of her time, she’d already been walking on thin ice after sensibly telling the public to “get over this love affair with the fetus” while also promoting handing out condoms in school. When she unleashed her “shocking” viewpoint on masturbation that was the final straw – outrage ensued among conservatives and President Clinton asked her to step down.
Yep she lost her job over masturbation.
Well now she has the final laugh. Not only did they make a documentary about Elders, along with advice on why pleasuring yourself is healthy – called “Sticky” but now all of May (with the 28th being the official day) – is dedicated to the deed.
So, in honor of her and how far we’ve come, who better to give some advice on making the month filled with fireworks than Wicked Sensual Care’s resident sexpert – Jessica Drake?
Drake, who is also an award-winning Wicked Pictures’ adult performer, writer, activist and educator, and creator of the “Guide to Wicked Sex” first and foremost suggested to cammers that the key to a successful Masturbation May is to have fun and be authentic.
No one wants to see you phoning it in!
I get it sometimes you’ve had a long day so it can be tempting to act turned on instead of being truly turned on, but Drake shared that it’s important to get in touch with your pleasure – your pocketbook will thank you.
“In my experience, fans feed off the intensity and excitement of someone who is absolutely into what they’re doing,” stated Drake. “Plus, even though we reinforce that on camera sex isn’t a realistic expectation of sex in folk’s personal lives, we all know that viewers are influenced – and try – what they see. So, use lube openly. Rub your clit, stroke your cock, run your hands over your body in the ways you want to be touched… and talk about it.”
In addition, she said that pacing and edging are really hot right now so pull out that bag of tricks and get busy. Ways to get your viewers excited include instructing them to match your speed, giving them the opportunity to choose what you’re playing with, and where you’re putting it, and by letting them know “the more generous they are the more power their requests have.” Drake’s even been encouraged to “call out names upon orgasming.”
Lastly, what is masturbation without some good lube?
Drake’s go to is WSC’s Ultra silicone and for toys she shouted out brands Le Wand (“specifically Le Wand original and the Grand Bullet from the Chrome collection) and BVibe – expressing that whatever you use it should be your fave, and what gets you off.
Enjoy the merry month of May and do honor to Dr. Elders!
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Alyssa Collins hails from Minnesota, where snowy days were the perfect excuse to stay warm inside and write. Over the years, she turned that joy into a career and has authored numerous articles for various publications (under pen names). Email Alyssa via alyssa@ynot.com.
